Developing Self Confidence in Your 20’s
Are you looking to develop your self-confidence? You’re not alone! Everyone learns to have greater self-confidence at every age. Whether you’re just entering your 20s or approaching your 30s, understanding how to build your self-confidence is key to personal growth and success. But it’s not always easy.
In this blog post, we’re exploring the best strategies to create stronger self-confidence in the twenties with stories from some lovely humans that have been placed on my path.
We’ll be taking a look at inspiring words from people from all walks of life, sharing real-life wisdom on how to build self-confidence, and discussing key strategies that can help you develop stronger self-confidence. If you’re looking to become more confident in your twenties, keep reading and get ready to make some life-changing progress!
Scroll to the bottom for key takeaways and practical tips from me :)
Brenna
“I would say that developing confidence in your 20s isn’t easy, especially with you entering adulthood. It can be stressful! Right now, I would say start spending time with yourself & get to know YOU! We spend so much time getting to know other people that I think we forget about ourselves sometimes.”
Caribia
“I think self-confidence begins with learning how to be happy and in love with yourself. This is something that I am still learning and fighting through. I have a huge fear of being alone. I have always wanted to surround myself with as many people as possible before I learned how to truly love myself. I had to learn that “alone” is the physical state which is different than being by yourself and “lonely” is the mental state of feeling disconnected. Through so much self-discovery, I was able to be “alone” without truly feeling lonely!”
“A part of that was developing self-confidence and whatever that meant to me. I had to learn a lot about myself and how I think/react. I had to really push myself to find my limits and tap into my divine feminine energy. It’s still a journey and I believe it will always be a journey no matter which stage of life I am in but I had to really make sure I found my power and was able to show it unapologetically. And to me, that is how I began my journey with developing self-confidence!”
Diogo
“The foundation of self-confidence is built on a relationship with Jesus Christ. He will reveal your true identity along with your true worth.”
Capri
“Self-confidence to me is knowing how to be okay with yourself, forgetting what other people’s perception of you is and focusing on doing what brings you joy. Others perceptions of me have always caused me to overthink but chances are my neighbors probably not even thinking twice about me and worried about their own selves.”
Chelsea
“Understanding that the only person who can dim your light is you, is definitely a game changer. knowing that you are far more capable than what you think, allows you to take bigger steps and achieve so much more.
Other people’s opinions do not matter. approval of others does not matter.
Confidence that is deep-rooted only comes when you stop blocking your own way and start living your life, for yourself. Eventually, you’ll see just how much power you possess.”
Aurora
“Right now for me, I feel like being confident is relaxing in growth. Confidence comes from knowing that being a person will always require some form of realizing that the best version of yourself is going to always require finding new spaces to grow in. I think the best way to develop self-confidence in your 20s is to continue to be someone who is committed to understanding more about yourself and loving the whole process of growth.”
Sianna
“I would say developing self-confidence in your 20s is all about not caring about where other people are in life, you’re not supposed to compare yourself to anyone at any point of your life but in your 20s, you feel this overwhelming pressure to overperform, and be stable when everything happens for a reason. You need to be able to let go for the universe to bring you to where you need to be. Most of the time we hold ourselves back, versus not excelling because of others. Allow yourself to love yourself, and give yourself some grace because you’re doing ok!!”
Jalen
“Developing a sense of self confidence isn’t meant to be easy, but that is what makes it worth it.”
Dana
“I really began to build self-confidence when everything I was involved in came to a halt with COVID and I was left to spend time with myself. I found that my confidence was coming from performance, whether that was school, sports, or being likable in the eyes of others. I didn’t know it at the time but I had to rebuild my confidence from something more foundational, not from a place dependent on what other people thought. I started listening to a few different podcasts that related to self-growth and other topics relevant to my life, my favorite being Truth for your Twenties (shoutout Katie Bulmer!). This podcast honestly changed my life as I found my confidence and my worth first in the one who created me. As long as my confidence remains in Him, nothing that comes way way in life can shake it.
Comparison has been the biggest challenge to my confidence journey that I’m still working to overcome. What helps me when I start to compare myself to others is to remind myself of how God sees me and who he says I am. I remind myself that he created me uniquely exactly as I am, and for a purpose far greater than myself. I anchor myself, finding my identity in who He says I am: His child whom he loves.
Something that has contributed positively to my confidence journey has been surrounding myself by people who understand me, lift me up, bring out the best in me, and love me for exactly who I am. Another thing that has boosted my confidence is challenging myself to try new hobbies. I have found some to be very life-giving, and when I do them I feel very connected to myself.
All this sounds much easier said than done. So as a healthy reminder, this change didn’t happen overnight. It has taken me almost 3 years to get to where I am now and the trajectory looks more like a series of ups and downs that a straight incline.
Hope this helps!”
Julie
“I didn’t start to feel confident in myself on a mental or physical level until I moved away from my hometown. When I was given the opportunity to be the version of myself I wanted to be without the potential judgment from those I’ve known my entire life, I felt very free. I think we allow ourselves to care about what others think more than we should, we all have our insecurities but we shouldn’t let them hinder our self-growth/love.”
"The most powerful weapon on earth is the human soul on fire." - Ferdinand Foch
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"The most powerful weapon on earth is the human soul on fire." - Ferdinand Foch 〰️
Takeaways:
Long story short NO ONE has it completely figured out.
Showing up for yourself becomes increasingly difficult the more you allow others to disrespect your boundaries.
Comparison can be silent but deadly
Sometimes to reach the right path, we have to move on from what and who might be holding us back.
Confidence isn’t a battle between you and society; it’s often a war fought from within.
Developing your sense of identity and purpose comes with trial and error. Sometimes the more you stumble the closer you are to figuring it out.
There is no “end” destination to confidence; it is infinitely evolving.
Confidence comes from within; be proud of who you are and what you offer the world around you.
In my opinion, failure doesn’t exist. Life is really about mastering “pivot” over “repeat”. We either learn from it or repeat the same pattern till we learn the lesson. You only fail if you give up. Better put is a quote by Winston Churchill, “Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.”
Practical Tips:
1. Celebrate your accomplishments: Take a moment to appreciate the progress you have made, no matter how small the achievement and congratulate yourself for it.
2. Participate in activities that boost confidence: Choose activities that make you feel good and challenge yourself to try something new.
3. Identify your strengths: Make a list of the things you like about yourself and list your qualities that may be considered strengths.
4. Practice positive self-talk: Remind yourself that individual failures do not define who you are and that you are capable of succeeding.
5. Set achievable goals: Setting achievable goals allows you to recognize progress and realize the growth you are making.
6. Take risks: Taking risks is a great way of exploring your boundaries, learning how to deal with failure, and witnessing how capable you are of reaching success.
7. Make healthy and positive lifestyle choices: Choosing a healthy diet, managing stress levels, and getting enough sleep all contribute to healthy self-confidence.
8. Seek out support: Reaching out to family, friends, and professionals are essential when building and maintaining self-confidence.
Stay Curious, Humble, and Kind!
With love,
